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What If?

What if….?

This question has lead me back to the heartbeat of a ministry The Lord birthed in my heart over 13 years ago. It began as a drama ministry. I used to write monologue style dramas and perform them at Women’s Events and Student Venues. It was my attempt at 18 to pursue what has always been my passion, acting (I was good at playing a part, but never really tackled the role of being myself until I was much older), paired with a sincere desire to see women’s hearts open up to the unfathomable and unconditional love of God. To give them a safe place to process the deeper truths and application of God’s love into everyday life. I used storytelling to soften the soil of their heart in order for them to open up and give The Lord Soul Access. The only problem was, I hadn’t allowed God Soul Access to my heart yet. I was living in a world of perfectionism,  interchanging masks like a chameleon changes color.

So God had to strip it all away to finally allow the scared little girl to surface. It was a gentle yet brutal journey through the muck to lay down mask after mask and be known fully in my shame so that I could finally understand how deeply I was loved by my Heavenly Father in spite of my sin. Soul Access was a ministry birthed in my heart at the age of 17 for others, but really it was a profound call to lay down my mask and be known as His Beloved. Now 14 years later, it’s been bubbling up to the surface, as another call. A call to create a place where one can be known, and not judged, a place where one could be raw and not rejected, a place where iron sharpens iron and the truth will set us free. This place would be a place where questions can be posed and answers can be found and searched out together. It’s a place where as Jordan Lee Dooley says, “Your brokenness is welcome here.”

So in the spirit of “What if?” here are a few What If questions I’ve been thinking about and just want to throw out there for us to think on. Maybe there’s one of these that sticks out to you, share about it in the comments or maybe you have your own “What If?” to share.

What could it look like? What if?

What if we had a place where we could be vulnerable without judgement?

What if we could lay our masks down safely and be known – fully known?

What if we believed we were loved, just as we are, without feeling like we had to clean up and cover up first?

What if we all could open up our arms and say genuinely, “Your brokenness is welcome here.”

What if we could learn to be the light we are called to be?

What if we could stop worrying about what the world thinks of us?

What if we could take all that energy we spend on worrying and direct it towards prayer for others?

What if we could slow down long enough to really see and hear people?

What if we became better at listening then we are at talking?

What if we could be the change we want to see?

What if we actually opened up a real Bible and marked it up and read it and read it again and again and again?

What if we started seeing ourselves as God sees us? Dearly beloved sons and daughters, whom he cherishes, enjoys and delights in?

What if we could truly get a hold of that love and then spread it all around?

What if we actually believed we are under grace and it is that grace that allows us to grow through our shortcomings and sin and become a new creation through Christ Jesus?

What if we weren’t afraid any more?

What if we actually put on our armor everyday?

What if we actually lived like we were free?

What if we choose hard work and humility over pride and entitlement?

What if chose servanthood instead of self gratification?

What if we chose our marriages and our spouse over empty counterfeit pleasures?

What if we chose contentment in our season of unfulfilled dreams?

What if we chose purpose in our season of loneliness?

What if we chose laughter instead of offense?

What if we stopped chasing after materialism and entertainment and spent time chasing after the Lord and the ones he has placed in our path?

What if we actually lived as holy sons and daughters of the Most High God?

What if we get hurt by being vulnerable and transparent but we were vulnerable and transparent anyway?

What if we actually lived like we are forgiven?

What if we forgave ourselves?

What if we actually give God the trust He deserves?

What if we deeply believed without question that God is good?

What if we believed in God’s character as a loving Father?

What if we stopped believing the uninspired and predictable lies of the devil?

What if we believed the best of people and took them at their word?

What if we stopped assuming?

What if we became quick to forgive and slow to become angry?

What if we were able to be fully, deeply and solely satisfied in Him?

What would happen if we chose joy daily?

What would the world look like if we all gave people a little more soul access?

What if we surrendered completely and gave God complete soul access?


What if… we actually lived by the Spirit, maybe the world would be a much different place and our hearts would be a little more fully known and we could find our smiles a bit quicker. Maybe people would feel and know their worth in the midst of their brokenness – cause baby we are all broken and in need of fixin and only Jesus can do that.

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Who is Your Authority?

“Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment…Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, for he is God’s servant for your good.” Romans 13:1-4

Authority.

When I hear that word, I squirm, it gives me a sense of uneasiness and I don’t immediately comply. Usually I expect people to prove they have authority over me and I only respect the leaders I think are worthy of such a title. I have struggled with this since I was very young. I’ve never cared much for the concept. I’ve worked hard in my life to get to a place where I didn’t have to work for anyone except myself, it’s one of the reasons, if not the main reason, I started my own business. ‘Don’t tell me what to do or how to do it!’ ‘Don’t tell me how to live my life!’ ‘You’re not the boss of me!’

Bad attitude? Of course. Do I care? Yes. Have I always cared? No. Am I working on it? Absolutely. Some would call it pride, I can’t say I disagree, pride is at the root of all sin, but I’ve come to realize for me it goes much deeper than just a simple label.

As a young person I struggled in the area of choices. I didn’t feel as though I had a right to make any, and when I did venture into the world of choosing I typically felt shut down or led to believe I couldn’t be trusted to make the right ones. Often control of anything, no matter how small felt beyond my reach, this led me into some very unhealthy habits (of which I will address at a later time). This distrust in myself grew and overtime, drove me to an unhealthy dependency on others. I needed others to make the important decisions in my life for me, because without their guidance I simply didn’t know how to function.

Over the last few years I have been learning how to step out and make my own decisions, learning to trust myself to make the right ones. I’ve taken back control over many areas of my life that were out of control or that I simply handed over for others to control for me. Now that I have a better sense of what is mine it’s now entirely possible for me to surrender myself to Christ. Where as before, I didn’t even know what to hand over to Him or how. Do I always do the right thing, absolutely not; however, Jesus is teaching me to trust Him and the more I lean in to hear His voice the better my choices become. I wish I had learned to depend on Him sooner but I am grateful for the lessons I have learned through the struggle.

Why was that all so important? I promise I have a point. Keep reading, or for those of you with authority issues like myself, don’t keep reading. So back to authority.

Because I have this unquenchable thirst to control everything in my life (yes, I’m still working on it) this whole issue of authority, especially an authority figure whom I absolutely hold no respect for, is a real struggle for me.

I have this teacher. He is absolutely ridiculously power hungry, every other word out of his mouth is an “F” word or some sort of obscene comment, he is completely abrasive, verbally abusive and he thinks it’s funny. If his choice of conduct wasn’t enough, his choice of lifestyle screams I want nothing to do with Jesus. He is very condescending towards anything that has to do with faith and he will not hesitate to tell you exactly what he thinks of your work and and it’s rarely good, unless you are a genius or just plain lucky, don’t expect a compliment.

This is where I find myself wrestling with scripture. “For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God.” Really? I mean really? What about that boss you can’t stand, or that supervisor know it all who is under your boss (they aren’t even really your boss!) or the president of the US…really God… Obama is from you? “For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God.”

“Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment.”

Ooooo, I don’t like that part. ‘But God there are so many reasons to resist.’ ‘They’re just simply wrong! Don’t you understand if I do what they say, I’m letting them win!’ ‘Don’t you say, you have plans to prosper me and not to harm me?!? This has to be hazardous to my health!’

“For he is God’s servant for your good.”

Now I know that this is a typo. ‘God, he doesn’t even serve you.’ ‘He doesn’t even like you! How can this all be for my good.’

There you go, an unedited version of the dialogue going through my head while I read this passage. Now for the version that has been sifted through His hands…based on the truth of scripture.

This teacher has been placed in authority over me. The Bible did not say I have to like it. I do have to respect it. I do have to trust that the Lord has a plan and lesson to teach me through it all. I do have to love him as Christ loved me. Perhaps he has been appointed as my teacher to drive me to depend more on Jesus who lives in me. Perhaps this teacher, is God’s servant (God can use whomever he wants to, in spite of their unbelief) to show me where I am still in need of refinement. Perhaps God is using this person to provide me with opportunities to be more grace filled and to exercise love and to offer compassion.

Behind this man’s cold, arrogant, harsh and angry eyes, I see something. It’s something that surrounds me every day, and it’s also something I often ignore because I simply don’t love enough, I don’t chose to notice.

It’s pain. Deep, unbearable, brokenness, anguish of the soul and down in there, deep in there, is a lost little boy who has been made fun of too often, led to believe he isn’t worth being loved, rejected and in his eagerness to please was either ignored or shut down. His only choice…to fight. If only he knew how the Father’s heart breaks for him. Jesus expand my capacity to love this man and show him you.

And maybe we are more alike than I care to admit. Striving to control anything and everything so we can bring order and predictability to our world. We never felt in control so now we are drunk on power. The only thing that separates us is I live under the authority of Jesus Christ and continually choose to surrender, His grace so mercifully covers me.

Who is my authority? Jesus. And I must obey him and love this man unconditionally.

Who is your authority? Who is it you need to choose to notice and choose to love?

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